In this video Tyra, mother of a recovering drug addict and alcoholic son talks about her experiences with her son and of how she enabled him without meaning to. Tyra describes the first realization she had of her son’s addiction as being when he went to college and got excessively drunk every weekend.
How She Enabled Her Son?
Tyra enabled her son’s drinking by providing him with continuing financial support for paying rent and spending money. She did not think at the time he would be using the money for his addiction. She first realized her actions when she went to visit her son and realized he was addicted to crystal meth.
Tyra’s next actions were to call for help and receive advice to stage an intervention, where she decided to cut off her son financially. Tyra describes being scared to death by doing this as it went against everything she had done prior.
How Did She Deal With Codependence?
Now Tyra realizes how she had been codependent upon her son. She got out of this codependency by education on the addiction process from a variety of different sources; family programs and al-anon meetings. Tyra believes her life to be much better now with a life free from worry, this coming from the realization that much of her worries were centered on matters out of her control.
In the video, it is evident that the parents who worry too much about their addicted children might enable them instead of helping them, which can worsen the situation. The best possible solution is to get help from some professional who can answer all their questions and facilitate in dealing with codependency issues.