My sponsor had me use the same NA step working guide book.  I thought she was out of her mind.  Sooo many questions, waaaay to personal.....but I'll tell you what happened.  I tried to cheat!  I did steps 1, 2 and 3, then I got to step 4 - YIKES.  It took me forever to write out the answers to the questions, but I was so afraid that somebody would read what I was writing, so I locked up my 4th step in a briefcase and kept it in my trunk - it took me months to finish it.  I was excited when I finished because everybody in meetings talked about how it would feel like "10,000 pounds is lifted off your shoulders after sharing your 5th step"....that sounded so good to me....but here's where I cheated...Not only had a written my REAL 4th step, but I wrote a "FAKEY" 4th step just in case at the last minute I didn't feel comfortable sharing it with her...... when it came time to sharing my 4th step with my sponsor (5th step) - I chickened out........ I read the fakey 4th step.  Then when we were done...she was crying and asking me if I felt better about sharing my 4th step and did I feel the "weight lifted off my shoulders"...of course I didn't. I felt like a big liar.....I broke down.  I cried, and told her that I lied because I was afraid she would JUDGE me based on all the terrible things I had REALLY done in my past.  My sponsor was so supportive and helped me to feel more comfortable sharing THE TRUTH.....she told me about some of her past and things she shared with her sponsor, and it really help me to connect enough with her to be completely HONEST.  So we went over my REAL 4th step...and let me tell you something.....I did feel 10,000 pounds lifted off my shoulders.  I was so ahamed then, but the story is funny to me now, and I share it with my sponsees to help break the ice.  We aren't perfect.....none of us.  Not only did I come into the program with "baggage", but I created even more of it early in my recovery because of my fears.  We don't have to tell our WHOLE entire story to everyone......just 2 people......your sponsor - and your higher power.  Thats it.  But tell them...honestly and completely.  It is the most cleansing part of my recovery to this date.