I had an interesting reply to a blog that had me pondering the very essence of their statement. In response to my blog on Dating vs. Relationships: The Addiction, one person commented that it “sounds like you need to convince your heart, not your brain.” I am very interested to know what other people think. Is it as simple to say that if we can convince our hearts that we will be able to be healthy, successful relationships?
What is the price of perfection? With the rate of eating disorders on the rise and it having the highest mortality rate, what is the price? Family, culture, magazines/music videos, friends all plays a role in anorexia. Frequently, parents and/or family genetics play a considerable role in the development of anorexia.
Do you remember going to a carnival or fair when you were a kid and walking through the fun house? The fun house consisted of hundreds of mirrors that altered the way that we saw ourselves…we used to find it so funny and entertaining. Now, most women and some men have a permanent fun house existing within their head, no longer being able to see the humor or entertainment, just the sorrow, imprisonment, and destruction of their altered perception. Thin is never thin enough and beauty/perfection is an ideal that one can never quite attain. How can one ever be satisfied with their looks when media lauds anorexia and drug addiction and plastic surgery is commonplace?
The question frequently posed to me as to why it is that some people are perpetual daters and others are serial “relationship-ists (a new word coined by yours truly).” Usually, it comes down to gender-men are more likely to be serial daters, whereas women tend to constantly be in a relationship. I believe that it comes down to one common denominator…the addiction to fear. It is always about one running from that which they fear the most, don’t you think?