Prostitution, Pornography and Sex

May 3rd, 2010 | Add a Comment

Getting sober is hard enough; getting sober and changing lucrative unhealthy careers such as bar tending or alas the porn industry is difficult.

Getting sober entails rebuilding a new life, feeling better about yourself and wanting to actually live.

Plus there is a 12 step program to help people who do not believe they can do it themselves.

Yet, giving up on the porn industry or “high class” prostitution (justified as having an arrangement with someone you would never be interested in yet they offer to buy you $1200 sunglasses) is a difficult judgment to make after all previous engagements in the industry. After indulging in the porn industry and being filmed engaging in sexual activity in front of a crew, sex because first nature and the emotional connection is easily disengaged after some time, and more than usually, sex addictions arise. A woman even leaving the porn industry has an easy time justifying a ‘sugar daddy’. Comparatively leaving the porn industry is hard because it is easily justifiable and the monetary mediums that a porn star, especially with alcoholism since it is a selfish based condition as they say in Alcoholics Anonymous (which is arguable), are harder aspects to get rid of especially since it is not literally killing one like drug addiction and/or alcoholism. The dancing business can buy you a great apartment with expensive furnishings, the porn industry can have you set on your feet for years, and comprising standards for money is easy for a woman who did it for a living. Most people in the porn industry have a sex addiction, which makes the justification of sleeping with someone for money, a reasonable and moral act. The money given up to leave this addictive lifestyle is very difficult. Status is also gained, being in the porn industry makes you ‘someone’, who gets in clubs without waiting, to parting with the owners that have 9 bottles of Cristal within 2 hours. The life brings free drugs, free alcohol, getting paid to have a picture been taken with you, being paid to go to a private party to listen and look hot. The lifestyle does take a good amount of servility and reasoning and addiction to sex. It is very easy to get sucked into and very difficult to leave.

The lengths a person will go to to stay sober is astonishing, and the lengths a woman or man will go to latch onto in the porn/sex industry/lifestyle, after getting sober, is just as astonishing. I think many will disagree when my friends anger management therapist told me she can still lead ‘this’ lifestyle in a moral and integral manner.

Hopefully there will come a point where a man or woman in the cycle of comprising themselves in any form of monetary compensation for sex and status will come to the understanding of what it means to be sober. It may take time, years even in sobriety. Alcohol and drugs are not the problem of being an addict or alcoholic it is the ‘symptom’. The problem is the feeling of a spiritual malady within someone where they will take any possible exterior means to consciously or unknowingly ‘fix’ the interior.

My friend has burned her book in the fireplace, the one full of all the names and numbers of ‘sugar daddies’. I now see her creating a new one, and my integral saving opinion is processed as a hating attack.

The point of being sober is leading a sober life. They say in Alcoholics Anonymous it means principals over personalities. You don’t even need AA to know prostitution, dating a married man, being a porn star, being a sex addict (no matter how many justifications you can make yourself believe) is detrimental to self. The true form of self is thirsty for something other than the shallow, external, quick fix. It’s up to you if you want to take care of yourself if you are in this seemingly unbreakable cycle. Are you ready to nourish your true form of self? It does take more than sobriety from drugs and alcohol to be sober. Addiction to money, sex and status is also a drug. Just because digging a needle into your vein is Unacceptably horrible, life threatening and self defeating compared to an Acceptable (especially in popular big cities) act of sex for any monetary means, doesn’t negate that it isn’t just as horrible, life threatening or self defeating. It’s terrifyingly astonishing how peer pressure and wide acceptance can influence people without them thinking!!! It’s just as sad the lengths and reasoning we will allow ourselves to go to and believe to gain money and status. Reality check. You can change your life now if you so chose to be good to yourself.